Ugh...! I have morals.. and I have a conscience (if that is spelled right according to Damon @ work), but the point is, we all "slip" a few times. Slip is the word that we have all used in this conversation to make us feel like it was a little mistake, or it to seem like we are not bad people. When in fact, what we have done is plain FUCKED UP ROYALLY and have succumbed to temptation. Not just to ourselves, but to each other as a whole. This may sound a little harsh, and we all have our reasons for doing it, and we may be able to reason it out. But when it comes down to it, we have all done it just for the fun of it, or the I'll get them back tactic. Mostly we are doing it for the simple idea of "other people do it, why not... We only live life once." While I truly believe that with sexual contents coming at us from all ends of society, it is becoming a more common thing today for both men and woman. I point this out just for one thing, we need to take our blinders off and really see what people and ourselves are doing these days and how our actions effect all. I had a conversation @ work (gossiping cubicles) the other day and I didn't agree with anything us four had to say. Now understand, there is a 35 year old guy with a 50 year old brain, a 60 year old woman, 37 year old mother of two, who stole her husband from another woman, and myself, a 33 year old woman in a long term relationship who acts single. I couldn't agree with anything the old man & woman said, but after hearing them all out. They made sense, you can cheat on any one in any way. The best thing to do is not to even put yourself in that situation. Even if it is out with the co-workers for a drink. Something always leads to something else. Even the idea of something can mean trouble. I didn't agree with that. I look at it as having a good time without temptation. But you never know what other people are thinking or planning to do.
Does this make sense to you? As I encounter more situations, I tend to agree. But I can't stop thinking if this is an old skool idea..
 

I have been the other woman in a many year relationship. I have seen this guy do so many different things. what stopped me was being the friend, he would tell me stuff about other girls, and look at me as if it was alright. and I put myself in that situation, so it had to be alright. But how many times can I listen to him cheat on his girlfriend and all the other girls he was with. When in reality he was cheating on me too. That was sick.
 

How can it be so wrong when it feels so right? I agree that being open to hooking up with others while in a relationship is a sign that there are serious problems, but who doesn't have serious problems? I used to think that cheating was the worst betrayal ever, now I think it's a perfectly reasonable manifestation of discontent. I've only cheated once, and it was awhile ago, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel guilty doing it. But I chose to put myself in that situation, and I think everything I do is intentional.